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The Negativity Fast Handbook by Geneva Musau & Battling FOMO

It’s a good time to be alive. In fact, it’s a great time to be alive! Technology has made life easier for us. Want a hot meal? Just power up the microwave and you’ll be chowing down in less than 2 minutes. Want to be in the know? Well, you can get the news at WhatsApp speed, Twitter (if it’s more your pace), or 411 texts just as it happens. Shopping, car rides, entertainment and people’s opinions are at our fingertips following us to the bathroom (c’mon, you know it’s true), our bedsides, office desks and through our commute. As a people, we’re ahead of things, in the know, and for some strange reason, we’re more depressed and afraid of life in light of these advancements.

To quote Geneva Musau’s new book:

“We live in a world that pushes negative information to us almost on autopilot. You don’t need to actively look for negativity. It’s served to you free of charge! Without much effort on your part, new and toxic patterns of thought develop and become your GPS.”

How true! Just like the opening line of Charles Dickens’ A Tale of Two Cities, a quiet chorus echoes. “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…”

We can chalk it up to the fact that social media’s promise of connectedness has disconnected us from ourselves and the inherent good that life offers (to buffer the bad).

In a world of memes, tweefs and online roasts that become punchlines for other people’s downfalls or misfortunes, our penchant for the negative has become an appetite that needs to be addressed.

What you behold you become.

This is where Geneva’s book The Negativity Fast Handbook comes in.

If you’ve caught yourself slipping into thoughts such as:

  • Why me?
  • Why isn’t God doing anything about this?
  • It can’t work
  • It’s too late
  • I’m missing out
  • I don’t have enough
  • God is rewarding them, not me
  • Is this it?
  • I will never recover from this

Then The Negativity Fast Handbook is just for you.

Each day for a month, Geneva (have I mentioned that she’s my mum?) illustrates principles to radically battle common negative thought patterns so you can find peace, strength and satisfaction in life.

Quite literally, it’s a handbook to help change your thought patterns from cloudy to sunny side up because sometimes, it’s not the situation that needs changing but our mindsets.

The Backstory

“The great illusion of leadership is to think that man can be led out of the desert by someone who has never been there.”

– Henri Nouwen

Now, you’d think the book is the brainchild of someone who doesn’t struggle with complaining, whining or negative thinking. Far from it.

For many, fasting from food is a no-brainer; but practicing restraint from complaining and turning positivity into a habit is quite the task. So Geneva and her colleague Eva formed a WhatsApp group to do just that. As the practice of sharing general negative thought patterns and how to battle them gained momentum on WhatsApp, people in the group began to send topics that needed addressing. The change in all those who participated is evident.

After the 30 days and compliments about her renewed response toward life, a friend encouraged Geneva to write a book about the experience. Thus, the book was born.

The Promise

You’ll be quick to catch yourself slipping into negative thinking and even quicker to get out by employing the LORD principle (captured in another of her books)Listen, Observe, Reflect, Decide.

What’s even better is that the book retails for only 200/- shillings and at 36 pages sitting cozy at a size that’s slightly smaller than an A5 notebook, the book can fit anyhere from a satchel to a handbag making it easy to refer to lessons shared.

An Excerpt From The Book – FOMO

Today we fast against the feeling that “I have been left out” , “I am missing out” or simply FOMO – Fear of Missing Out. In today’s world, so much is taking place so fast that it is impractical to be involved in everything. The sense that there is “an inner circle”, “a kitchen cabinet” or “the chosen ones” is what fuels FOMO. You can easily tell when you experience FOMO – you feel left out, not consulted and not valued. FOMO can manifest itself in any situation and among different teams – in politics, at home, in church, within your neighbourhood, among friends as well as within your social circles. It keeps us in a perpetual state of anxiety.

How do we deal with FOMO?

  • Trust that God has your best interests at heart

The Bible tackles anxiety very many times so I guess wanting certainty is probably wired in the human DNA. In Philippians 4:6-7, the Bible says “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard our hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Sounds easy to read and tough to implement, right? However, if God wants you in, you will be in, irrespective of the circumstances.

God will not keep you out of a place, event or activity that will not derail His plans for you. Believe that you are where you are meant to be.

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  • Relax

FOMO keeps us in a state of anxiety and robs us of the peace that comes from God. Remember FOMO is a manifestation of peer pressure – if others are involved I should too – kind of mindset. Peer pressure can be positive but it can also be negative – I have to drive a certain car, need to be a member of a certain club, and live in a certain neighbourhood, be part of a project team, or be consulted on certain issues. This can actually fuel greed and jealousy which are quite unhealthy. The Prince of Peace lives in your heart, relax! Remember the verse, “Come… apart… and rest a while…”? (Mark 6:31)

  • Believe in yourself

FOMO is basically a search for external validation. A sense that if I am involved, included or consulted in a process, event or decision then I am valued. When we start looking for affirmation and confirmation of our value from those around us, we open ourselves up for possible disappointment. God is the source of our value and that makes us automatically valuable. Interestingly, when we believe in ourselves, others tend to do the same. Don’t you just love what God has to say about your value? That before you were formed in your mother’s womb, He knew you? (Jeremiah 1:5). Know who you are – the son or daughter of the Most High, created to impact the world in a unique way.

The moment you accept your innate value, you become self-assured. Going forward, you control the script. You become the main actor in the movie of your life. Fear of any form is not your portion.

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Geneva Musau is the CEO and founder of Life Coaching Foundation that supports many boys and girls from different parts of Kenya to pursue primary and secondary education. She has authored seven books covering a number of subjects including motivational, career as well as Human Resource practice. She holds a PhD in HR Management, a Master of Arts in HR Management, a Masters in International Business Administration and a Bachelor of Commerce. She is also a certified Life Coach and a Strengths Guide and Coach (Strengthsfinder & StandOut).

Feel free to get in touch on geneva.musau@yahoo.com and share your thoughts or views.

To buy the book at 200/- only, text/call Koki on 0717624505 or Ray (text/call) 0700099560. The book was edited by me & designed by Rob Omol featured here last week.

  • Reply
    Lisa notes
    July 24, 2018 at 5:27 pm

    This sounds like such an encouraging book. We all need to take note of our negativity. It can creep in when we become slack. I love this truth: “because sometimes, it’s not the situation that needs changing but our mindsets.” Amen.

    • Reply
      Koki
      July 26, 2018 at 10:33 am

      Oh Lisa <3 Yes. Yes.

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    Alyson | WriteThemOnMyHeart
    July 25, 2018 at 3:16 pm

    What a great idea to have a negativity fast! This book sounds wonderful – I am pinning this.

    • Reply
      Koki
      July 26, 2018 at 10:33 am

      Same reaction I had when she told me Alyson. It’s a goodie. Will soon be up on Amazon

  • Reply
    Lauren Sparks
    July 25, 2018 at 5:00 pm

    This is so great! Thank you for writing about it, Koki. laurensparks.net

    • Reply
      Koki
      July 26, 2018 at 10:34 am

      Thanks for passing by Lauren <3

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    Melanie M. Redd
    July 27, 2018 at 10:43 pm

    Sounds like a great book!
    Thanks for sharing your review today.
    I found your post on Debbie Kitterman’s site, and I’m glad to find you!
    I’m linking for my friend Pam and JourneytoHim.com.
    Hope you have a wonderful weekend~
    Blessings,
    Melanie

    • Reply
      Koki
      July 28, 2018 at 10:27 am

      Thanks for passing by Melanie <3

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    Mary Geisen
    July 28, 2018 at 1:21 am

    I love knowing about another book that sounds wonderful. The Negativity Fast handbook is one we all can benefit from. The words “what you behold, you become” are words that I have heard in another context recently. I’m finding a lot of truth in those words.

    • Reply
      Koki
      July 28, 2018 at 10:28 am

      Mary <3 <3

      So true. It's made me very cautious about the gate of my eyes 🙂

      Always a pleasure having you pass by

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    Gayl
    July 30, 2018 at 3:54 am

    This sounds like a very good book to read. Your mother sounds like a very wise woman. I would love to be able to read it sometime. Thanks so much for sharing your review with us at the #LMMLinkup. Blessings to you!

    • Reply
      Koki
      July 31, 2018 at 8:59 am

      Hi Gayl 🙂

      Will let you know when it’s on Amazon 🙂

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